I've tried to do an exposure of sorts - when WH scarpered off to OW4, I immediately messaged her telling her all the lies he had told her, i.e. we had never started the divorce process (he told her we had started it months ago and I was agreeable to it), that I was fighting for our marriage and asked her to leave us alone (he led her to believe I didn't care about him), and that she was number 4. She didn't believe anything I said. He said I was the liar and she chose to believe him.
I've confronted OWs2&3, sort of - not face to face but sent them emails saying I knew about them and could you mind your own business please. In a way I came to regret this later because it was only through my interventions that WH's messing about stopped - never because he actively chose it. They either left him or I scared them off. And he's just motored on and found another one, and I've realised it's stopped him from addressing whatever issues that's motivating him to do this.
Skyhigh - it sounds like your WH was shocked into sense. I don't think it will work with my WH, I think it would just harden his resolve to d!ck about.
I am tempted to expose to OW's parents as PsySara did, but have decided against it in the end. As satisfying as it will be for all of ten mins, I think the best case scenario from this is that OW dumps him. He might come back simply because he's got nowhere to go and then run off again when he finds another OW.
And besides, I'm in it for the long game now - I want revenge. And revenge is going to be him looking at his ugly OW (she is SO horse faced it's unbelievable, someone give the woman a carrot) in a couple of years' time, looking over to me, mother of his child, all beatific and serene and happy, and thinking, when she nags him about the bum around the house that he is, I gave that up for this?
