I've been thinking about the 180s and I'm not really sure how to go about that... The things that my H expected from me were mostly positive things, so I'm not sure about doing 180s. Even now that we're separated and he is big into getting a D. he tells me I was always a good partner, that I always do the right thing, that I'm incredibly loyal, that I took care of him and even "saved" him by helping him get on track when he was addicted to marijuana as a young adult and likely would not have finished college. He also expects me to be able to take care of myself and my kids, to be a good mom, to be responsible, to work as many jobs as necessary to pay the bills...
I don't feel like I want to not be that person, which seems like what the 180s would be, unless I'm looking at that wrong....
Even if I were going to do a 180, like pretend I'm very needy and can't take care of myself, how would I do that when we are now separated?
On an entirely separate note... Anyone have a good strategy for dealing with Valentine's Day?
Me: 45 H: 47, M 23 yrs., T 27 yrs. S6 & S13 BD: 10/23/16 11/20/16: In-house Separation 12/5/16 H goes to IC , stops confiding in me 12/29/16: Start MC 2/4/17: Trial Separation/H moves out
