mlc stagers

[maly]

Hi everyone,I'm wondering,my w seems to have gone thru the first 3 stagers,but no sign of the others,she is still in replay with om ,but It seems to be taking a long time for the other stagers to kick in,or is it possible they will not go thru the other stagers,it would be great if you cauld,help me with this,and to see if job ,Sandi,could give me some advice,

Hmmm - I just spent some time looking at my welcome post which apparently has changed a little over the years.

This used to be in it

The stages of MLC are a template which can only be laid over an MLCer's experience retrospectively.
It's impossible to see the pattern until it has finished being laid or the crisis is complete.(nickel Cyrena).
So do not be too concerned where your MLC'er is in this process.(Although my general guess is that they are in REPLAY)

There are certainly MLC'ers around that never complete Replay,
and we have thrown around numbers of 3-7 years,
although I can tell you that my ex seems to still be in the tunnel and I am almost at 8 years.
Job will tell you that her ex is also in the tunnel and I think she started posting here in 1999, so yes TIME can be VERY long and it is best to not waste it.

I certainly started out as a big stage watcher.
However the longer this goes on the more I agree that it is a
huge waste of time.

Most people posting here have spouses in REPLAY, so welcome to the club.

Thanx cadet,1999 wow,it all looks bleak to me,I think my hopes of her making it thru are going down,she had a simler crises about 20 years ago ,got up one morning and she was gone,she was saying things same as she is now,but on that occasion other was no om,and she returned after about six months,