Great, inspiring update. When you say pending D, what does that mean? And when you have finalized D, will that change anything for you in terms of your situation with your W and son?
To save you the ample reading .... I have been on the D-ropes for it seems as long as this crisis has been going on. I was served finally by her lawyer back in Sep16 but have not heard a peep since ... supposedly I have a court appointment that was scheduled back then that should take place this week so I will attend that and hopefully know more .... not sure if its been post phoned, cancelled, forgotten .... hard telling with all the back and forth the MLCr historically has displayed.
When/if the D is finalized I do not anticipate anything changing in regards to my S, we have the custody thing pretty must situated with the exception that my drive to buy a condo will ramp up considerably but as I am doing now I still may have a year or tow to save/locate the correct place.
As far as the W/MLCr this financials may not be what she has been getting nor expecting, I decided long ago to give X with the fact that if D happens I will benefit financially from where I am now, this was in order to keep S10 in the school he is in with little MLC impact to his life as I can afford, part of the D settlement will be he continues at this school as planned till 8th grade then we will have to come to an agreement at that point. The only other thing I see changing is this will be that last strand that binds, for me changes little I really can consider what we have had over the past 3 years a marriage ... that takes two .. but for her as we have discussed not only in my thread but others, D sometimes is the last thing they need to have in order to complete their journey.... maybe this will be the thing that helps her through it I am not sure... time will tell, if I am ever approached for R ... like my approach has been ... I will deal with that when it comes, till then I strictly keep my focus on myself and my son, with just an wandering eye on her now and then just making sure I am ready to close the window or leave it cracked given the MLC gusts of nuts that do tend to be a part of this.
