I do appreciate the different angle offered by Jelly & Zeus. As DB coaches like to say, YOU are the one on the "front lines" so only you know how best various advices offered apply to your situation.
I do hope it is the case that Jelly & Zeus's take on the situation is right. Maybe if you (LT) spent a couple of weeks totally focusing on: a) really listening to your W; b) try not to fix a single thing, don't be a fixer; c) respect her every wish.
Maybe it's worth trying to see if that changes her anger & contempt for you? Or maybe you've already tried this....
Me: 50, MLC/WW 45 Young kids Nov 2015: BD1 Apr 2016: BD2 Jan 2017: W filed Feb 2017: D final