Welcome to the MLC Forum. The stages are just a guideline and provide a description as to what may occur along the MLCer's journey. They are not linear and they do bounce back and forth throughout all of them except the acceptance stage, which is the final stage before returning to the real world, i.e., some tend to stay stuck and others don't.
It will take as long as it take and it's really all up to her as to when the crisis ends or she remains stuck. You didn't break her, therefore you can't fix her. You can't control anything she says or does...but you can control how you react to her behavior.
What happened 18-24 months prior to the bomb drop? Think back...did she get a new job, birth of a child, death of a family member/co-worker/friend, etc.?
I would suggest that you educate yourself as much as possible on MLC and depression. Depression is the main ingredient of MLC.
I have taken the liberty to link your thread from Newcomers to here so that others can read up on your situation:
Cadet, thank you for coming by and posting your Welcome to MLC for me this morning.
Last edited by job; 02/13/1710:40 AM. Reason: Add link to previous thread
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
