I know everyone before me has given you a lot to think about and I'm not sure I can offer anything earth-shatteringly different, but what I can say is that I'm right there with you in that boat of being unable to judge interest very well. Someone is friendly and I think, oh, maybe they are interested. I have to constantly rein myself in and remind myself that I'm a very friendly person. I'm that lady who will talk to complete strangers in line at the grocery store, the DMV, waiting to buy movie tickets, whatever. And, just because I'm friendly doesn't always mean I'm interested, but by the same token, just because someone reaches out to me in a friendly way, doesn't mean they are interested either....if any of that makes sense.
I also agree with what those before me said about maybe your lifestyle might not be super appealing to women who are in more mature stages in their life. Speaking ONLY for myself here, I don't want a super clingy man, but I also don't want one who is gone all the time, doing gigs. I want someone that I can call up on a random Tuesday night to go for a drink or have over on Saturday or Sunday afternoon to go take a walk in the park with my dog then go back to my place for lunch or dinner. While I'm sure you are very settled in your career and in your routine, it might seem less so to some women and maybe seen as even a tad unstable (not unstable as in crazy, but unstable as in steady income/hours/responsibilities).
I know it has taken me awhile to get to the point where I REALLY want to date. I didn't when I first went thru my D. But I also know that good things take time and that things have a way of working out how/when they are supposed to. I guess I'm putting myself in V's camp here of it will happen when it is meant to happen.
I wish you all the best as I have no doubt that you are a decent, caring, stand-up guy. I just bet there is a lovely lady out there somewhere who is just the right one for you and I hope you find her.
Me 52, H53 Bomb drop 9/29/2014 Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014 Marriage #2 12/31/2019 5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships) 6 grandkids
