Debi, Hi! Don't be afraid of me giving you the boot! I really appreciate it! Please, feel free to kick me in the arse!
Ok, Ok, so I CAN DB. I just choose not to sometimes.
I think in general, you are right about his quietness. However, in the past couple weeks, he has def. been distant. (He admitted it before.) Please read the following update:
H called me on the way to the din. He did v. little all day and said that he didn't think he was going to go anywhere. I go to my din., get home, greet him happily, hug him for a few min. He's not very responsive, so I go off and clean up and do my nails and stuff, go to bed early. He comes to bed and is overheated, turns the fan on-I was under the comforter. I ask him to snuggle when he cools off. So, he does. He asks me about din., I ask about his eve.
This morn, he says goodbye. I ask if he needs time away from me (nicely) (obviously he's not acting like he WANTS to be around me). He says he doesn't know what he needs and that he can't talk right now b/c he's got to go to work. So, WTF? I thought Monday went well, we aired a bunch of stuff and re-committed to BOTH making more effort, etc. So, what is his prob. NOW??? I am somewhat paranoid about what is going on in his head right now.
I am afraid that he is thinking that things are never going to change. But I also told him the other day that if he continues to be distant, etc., that no, things will not change. 2 way street kinda thing...
I'm trying not to worry about it and hope that he will be open about his feelings and that he isn't hopeless. I will remember to listen, validate, not get defensive, and not cause a bigger fight.
