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Perhaps Im Looking for answers that simply don't exist. I guess I'm hoping that there are things I can do or not do to make me as successful as those around me. Man my head hurts from thinking so much. I've been very sucsful at so many things. It really hurts to have this piece of my life suck. I can't get these years back. If time stood still I wouldn't care. I just can't share these years of my life with someone again. I'll never be able to share my 50th birthday with my GF like I did my 40th with my wife. I won't be able to share my step sons or step daughters wedding with a GF. I won't be able to share the cruises and vacations I've ebe by myself. And the list goes on - and that just [censored].


Don,

Off point - gotta ask a question, if your tag reads that you are 53, then how are you going to celebrate your 50th?

Back on point - The unfortunate thing is that you won't be able to celebrate your 50th or those things like you did with your wife. Just not possible. However, you can celebrate milestones with a new person but they will be in a different form...and that's the excitement of it all. You don't want things to be the same, because then that would be nothing more than trying to fill the ex's shoes. Which is not possible.

I have a friend who was much in your same situation. In his case, he "pushed" in much the same way you do. Sure, he had no problem getting first dates but rarely got seconds because he came across as needy/clingy and wanting to skip entire steps in the dating process. This was during the time I was seeing Ms. Harley Quinn and she gave him this fantastic advice (this was years ago so I may be off a little, so forgive me) - "Mark, the problem with you is that you are looking for a relationship a little too hard. Take things as they are, and if they progress then they progress. Go into them with no expectations and let them build as time goes. Otherwise, they run every time."

Let it happen. I know its tough to want someone to date and feel like it isn't happening. It will, just not when you expect it.

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