I'm sorry you had to do this, Gump. None of us want to see our children hurt. It's a horrible side effect that we can't avoid.
I think it passes through all of our minds, I wish I never married this person. But Marix is right. If we didn't, then the most important people in our lives would not be here. I would not give that up for anything in the world.
As for your pictures and ring, I guess everyone feels differently with this. Don't do anything while your in this bad place. These are memories. Yours and your children's. One day they may ask to see them and you may regret destroying them. Box them, bury them in the basement, but think long and hard before destroying them.
One foot in front of the other, Gump. You'll get through it.
M:41 H:43 T:26yrs M:19 yrs S:15 D1:14 D2:9 Living together but separated