Brother, I truly am sorry you're having to go through this. The conversation you had with your kids last night is the one I also dread. It's one thing for this to be between us and our Ws. It's another thing completely to pull our kids into this mess. It seems so unfair to them to be caught up in it.
It's hard to do right now but best thing to do is pull yourself up, dust yourself off, and keep moving forward. Knowing you bud,I'd imagine you've already started doing this anyways. You are a rock and your kids will need your steadying presence more now than they ever have. Remember that your kids will always be the gift that came from your M.
Man this stuff [censored]. Hang in there brother. We are here for you.
Me39 M11 : T13 D9 BD 5/31/16 In House S until 6/21/17 Divorced 10/5/18