Well hey there! Gosh you really astound me sometimes!!! LOL You get so down on yourself and have so much doubt about your DBing skills, then you totally WOW us by.....
Quote: H had some feelings about an interaction that we had and wanted to talk, but he said he didn't want it to last all night. I said, "Ok, how long would you like it to last?" He said 10 minutes. So, he asked for clarification, I clarified, he expressed feelings, I validated-all in less than 10 min!
OMG!!! You blew me away with that! Teach me!!! LOL. When we have a talk about things, we both let our emotions rule and it gets ugly!!! So I am mucho impressed. Go girl!!! Great job.
I think you need to stop taking his silence as being upset or distant. I say that because just from the way you describe him, he sounds like a normally quiet, laid back guy. (Am I right?) So you are challenging his right to be himself by freaking out over that. It seems like he is able to tell ya when something is off kilter with the R. I know I am a hyper, loud person normally but when I have a quiet mood (fortunately few! ) and ppl start to bug me about "what's wrong???" I get agitated with them. No matter how many times I try to explain that I am fine, just want to be quiet, they keep bugging me and I finally get upset with them! So I am wondering if maybe I know how your H feels about that.
Whack me if I am being out of line. You just DB so well and then there goes the "I feel blah...." stuff, almost like you want to discredit evrything you do right in your R. Nasty habit, Karen, ditch it! (So guess what mood I'm in...bossy!) LOL. I think I am being rough on you because I have seen you DB like a pro, and I know you can do it, very well. So I don't cut ya any slack, huh? (((Karen))).
Anyway, I think you did very well and if you will concentrate on that instead of the negative stuff, I think you will find out the potential you and your M have. Anyway, I just thought I'd stop in...hope you don't show me the door! LOL. Take care and God bless!
) and ppl start to bug me about "what's wrong???" I get agitated with them. No matter how many times I try to explain that I am fine, just want to be quiet, they keep bugging me and I finally get upset with them! So I am wondering if maybe I know how your H feels about that. 
