2016, Are you forcing yourself out of your house? Engaging with friends and DBing your relationships with folks you aren't married to? This was the key to my detaching, I filled up my time with those who love me and KNOW it. Don't give up, it's not over until it over. Go to BluWave's thread and take a leaf from her book. Her WH left her for the OW and lived with her for about a year I believe. He came back but inly after Blu finally and truly moved on.
Hi PsySara!
Thanks for taking the time out to address issues in my sitch. I have been GAL-ing, or at least mimicking GAL-ing. I've been going out and forcing myself to do things even when I don't want to. I've started dressing better and have become more disciplined with make up - I look better and I know it. I can't look like the person he fell for because my hair is so short now - won't grow back after the chemo properly, and OW has long luscious hair like I had when we were dating, but hey ho.
I do read Bluwave's thread repeatedly as well, but I realise I can only control my end of things and I think both yours and Blu's WHs were more motivated to make things work in the long run. My WH is being v cold and is refusing to entertain R for any reason, even our 3 year old son. It's 9 months since he's shacked up with OW and I keep hoping that familiarity breeds contempt but it seems they are getting stronger all the time : (
SkyHigh - I've been looking for your thread but I can't find it - could you send it to me? I am so intrigued by your sitch - I would love to know how the last OW left - what happened?
