Hey H, I really don't know what to say, just want you to have HUGE hug and for you to know you are in my thoughts.
I really really don't know how you are staying as cool and tolerant as you are, you are an incredible woman HaWho, your tolerance and patience is beyond anyone I know.
I know in the past you have talked about your h dealing with your own depression and its one reason you are pushing through and putting up with his behaviour, but sheez, seriously H, you deserve to be treated with respect and love and your h has shown no signs of being capable of either for a while now .I am so so sorry and sad that you and you boys are having to live like this, but admire you for persevering with a extremely difficult and challenging situation. You are a walking advert for holding to your wedding vows !!
I have no thoughts on your latest issue, I am far less tolerant, I would have told him to either eat with the family or cook his own food, choose one option, end of subject. I do feel job is right in saying that he is pushing for a fight, he is looking for the excuse and you are not giving it to him, so he is pushing harder. Your boys are going to be late teens soon enough and believe me they will push the boundaries (which you are going to be such an expert at by then lol) even the most sweetest child has their moments, so do you want you boys growing up seeing this behaviour and how your h treats you and starts to re enact that ......?
Making your h understand what is and isn't acceptable is also helping your boys understand it too, they are watching and taking this all in, so if you don't want to get a bit tougher for your sake, then do it for your boys sake.
HaWho, I genuinely want to see you, your h and your family come through this, you have travelled such a long way down the MLC path together, but I also want to see you be ok, to live and love life and be happy, so please look after YOU in all this, remember you are valid and have the right to live in an environment that is respectful.
I am sending you so much love and wish I could give you a big hug and have a few glasses ...bottles ...of something pink and share tales of MLC crazy antics with you. xoxp
