This used to be way easier - and a lot more fun!

[DonH]

So Summer, are you saying I can only have one or the other? If so, why do you believe this? And if so, why did it work before? I've done the band thing and been self employed working from my home since I'm 20. Thus has not changed.

I'm also confused at why you think that I believe anyone who is friendly is interested? That most certainly happened at the event at the end of January, but that was ONE ENCOUNTER with one woman. The others have not gone like that. The others I went on dates with - sometimes at THEIR invitation. How can I be mis-reading them?

Is really the only way to meet someone and develop a R is the way you are describing? Really, that's the only way? If so, then I guess I am screwed and more depression here I come. Why can't I live my life as I am and still meet someone worth spending time with? I'm confused.

And then finally, am I really that bad at judging interest? If so, then how do I tell the difference between the lady in the grocery line just being friendly and actually being interested? Most don't say anything therefore... Not interested. Now you're saying those who do go out of their way to be friendly are not interested either? Really? So NO ONE is interested. Is that it? I'm very confused here - even more than usual. It almost sounds like you are saying, no one us interested Don. You're misreading everything. Is that your point?

The piece I do get and very much agree is what I'm doing is not working. You and I seem to agree on that. However, others disagree and say it's nothing I. Doing, it's just not "my time" or "when I least expect it..." V seems to be in that camp

The thing is, I don't think I've changed at all. I'm basically the same as I was 20 years ago when all of this worked. Same jobs, live in the same house (same location) hell IM told I even look the same and I know weight the same as I did n high school. This was just never an issue 20 years ago - so why is it now? I should not have to change who I am to find someone should I? Should someone not be out there who will love or at least like me for me.

See why I'm so frustrated? Or am I the only one that thinks these things?