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Thanks Roist. Good advice; solid as always.

I have begun addressing the PA behaviors. But, as I tackle this pile over here new ones crop up over there. Here's a new one. H joins us at the table for dinner but does not eat the meal with us. He covers it and puts it in the fridge. Then, the next day, as I am making dinner, he comes in, grabs the meal from the night before, takes it to the dorm room and eats it there.

This weekend he tried to pull the "separate cars to 20 miles away" routine. I had to drop s13 off somewhere and was coming back home to eat dinner and then go to s11's game. As I was leaving h said we could drive separately. His plan was to leave before I returned but if he just waited 5 minutes we could all go together. Sigh.

I went into the dorm room and used Job's line: "with gas prices and wear and tear on the car, are you sure you want to drive separately?" But, I admit there was annoyance in my tone. How long must I endure this stupidity? (For you all it's a rhetorical question. For God though, it is a serious question. And I do feel my toe tapping...)

H gaslit me: "I thought that would be easier for you!" (Yeah sure.) "I am just here trying to eat my dinner" (the one he wrapped up from last night even though we are going to eat dinner in 20 minutes when I return!) Innocently: "You do whatever you want." Yeah, sure.

Then in the car on the way to the game it was back to "s11 did I ever tell you ..." "Hey s11 yesterday I ..." Every sentence specified for s11. I just acted as if but I had this imaginary scenario in my head where I sent God an email pinging him with a subject line like: "bumping this up to the top of your to-do list." And in the body of the email I would ask him if he'd forgotten about this nut job on my left.

One morning this week I clarified something financial with him. I did it face-to-face. Then I left for work. Afterwards of course, he sent me a text (seconds later) with a light bit of spew. I ignored it completely.

I am learning lots of new things at work. The people are so nice. There is a fundamental respect there that I SO appreciate not just because of my last workplace but also because my h is crazy.