Infidelity/WAH, my story pt 9

[PsySara]

James,
Thank you so much for your insight, I have be re-reading your post and trying to see how it can be applied in my situation. I feel like WH just doesn't have the strength to face his demons yet. In the meantime we are moving more towards piecing, I still don't have the courage to put it in my signature though.

2016,
Are you forcing yourself out of your house? Engaging with friends and DBing your relationships with folks you aren't married to? This was the key to my detaching, I filled up my time with those who love me and KNOW it. Don't give up, it's not over until it over. Go to BluWave's thread and take a leaf from her book. Her WH left her for the OW and lived with her for about a year I believe. He came back but inly after Blu finally and truly moved on.

JK,
Thank you so much for your words, they are very encouraging. I have noticed I am more patient with my children, my WH and my friends. This DBing process has taught me a LOT about myself and continues to do so.

So a big 180 for me yesterday, I took WH to the Ducati dealership and helped him pick out a bike. He exchanged one of his bikes and got a great deal. Recently I bought a shop vac on his Amazon account and spent yesterday evening detailing the inside of the family van and my car. WH was in the garage and looking over his new toy. He kept thanking me over and over again though it was his money he spent. It's so weird but I had a great time detailing the vehicles and was all cheerful and spunky.

Tonight I plan on surprising him with an early Valentine's day gift in the bedroom.