Hi Maggie, Mom, and Slowly,
H and I got into a big discussion/fight last Wed. He brought to my attn. that i should have fixed the dog pen...two years ago...(they are "my" dogs as I have had them since before we were married.)

It turned into a big scoring contest-I do this, well I do that, well, I do this more, I do that more...and on and on...I ended up getting a little pissy at the end, and he left saying that he needed some space. OK. So, later I apologize for bringing in everything including the kitchen sink and that I got defensive and was blaming and should have just taken responsibility and let it go at that.

So, we have both been feeling pretty distant since. I was feeling pretty resentful. Last night went better. We joked and goofed around a lot. I cooked both Tues & Wed.

I have not been initiating. Last week I was giving him a massage and it let to though that was not my intention. Ok, well, maybe just a little...Sunday I brought it up and he willingly participated. And, I haven't since, and it hasn't happened since. I asked if he was feeling distant and he said, "kinda I guess," which I interpretted as yes and let it go. I know he needs to feel connected to do the deed, and I realize that it helps me too b/c if we are not connected, sometimes I feel worse after-wishing he'd say ILY or compliment me or that it would just be more emotional.

It's really killing me not to though, and not to BI about it...but...Patience & discipline, right?

thanks for stopping by. I've been hangin out on the KLA threads lately.

karen812