Keep Wearing Wedding Band? [Thread #8]

[ForGump]

JR, find me on Tacoma World and I'll send you a bottle.

Good point about the box. Yeah, I might do the same, tear open the box on some lonely, pathetic night and look at the g[censored]mn wedding pictures, or the pictures of her pregnant, cheeks full, belly like a basketball, smiles everywhere. Best to box it up and sink the whole thing at twenty fathoms, or commit to a bonfire.

At every wedding they should just flip a coin, and say, Sorry, this one wasn't meant to be, take back the presents, cancel the dance band, we can still eat the cake but go home and find another bride.

I think I've said this already but I hate wearing jewelry. I don't even like to wear a watch. So when I got married, I wasn't wearing my wedding ring consistently, and it took me forever to get used to it. But once I understood what the ring meant for her, I kept it on all the time. Meanwhile, she'd take off the ring whenever she got red hot angry at me.

About the kids -- I want us to coordinate a bit before we talk to them. My W and I talked a bit about it today. She said she had no idea what to say, and finds herself not able to say anything. I think she might expect me to take the lead on talking to the kids.

I've thought about saying, We love each of you to the ends of the earth, and what we have to tell you now has nothing to do with how we love you more than life itself, but Mommy and I have been together a long time and recently we've found that we are not able to make each other happy, and that means it's time for us to live separately in two homes. This means Daddy will go make a home in another house, and you two will spend some time there and some time here.

My heart is hardened. A few months ago I couldn't even finish thinking about the above speech. Now I can type it out. I have resolved to believe that just as I can survive this, my kids will not only survive but thrive after this. They will be resilient.

I think they already know in their subconscious who is the unhappy one in the marriage. And if not, it will be made more apparent as time goes on. I don't see a need for me to express any of that now.