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I think they should make adultery a criminal offence with a big fine or some thing,might stop some of this crap and damage caused to families,

Seems like a good idea to me. I think I'm in the same situation as you guys are in, but I haven't yet found conclusive proof of OM, but I feel so strongly that there is one, and I've got some decent evidence of it.

I'm trying to be strong. She called and text again about meeting. I haven't responded yet. I just don't understand what questions she has that she can't ask me over the phone. I don't want to meet her at the house as it could lead to sex. I really am trying to stand my ground and say drop the divorce then we can talk.

Not knowing what she's wanting is driving me crazy.

It is called temperature checking. That's where the WW will say or do something to see how you will respond. Sometime (especially women) will turn on the tears, use physical touches, be all sweet & nice, on & on.....the list is almost endless. Here's the thing.....once she sees the H still wants her, and does not have a new girlfriend....she's right back to her wayward self. She never intended to do the right thing and doesn't want to do whatever is necessary to save the M.

Look, she heard you may be dating and it stirred up her jealousy....so she needs to make a little temp check and see if it is true......and to see if she can stir your feelings for her. That is why she is so "desperate" to see you in person! Many men have succumb to tempt checking, thinking the W was changing. They were in for a rude awakening.

I don't understand why this is temperature checking. It's clear he still wants her, or he wouldn't tell her to call off the divorce before meeting her. Sorry. I'm trying to learn.