Hi Karen - thought I would jump on over to your thread and say hello. Thank you for posint on mine - after I read through most of your thread, I have to think we share the same obsessive brain! The thoughts you continually have about your H and different situations you are in, plus the expectations you have, ring so true for me.
I picked up a book yesterday called "Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved By You" - the title caught my eye because this is what crosses my mind all the time in different interactions with my H. So far, the book has been extremely insightful - especially about the subtle controlling aspects of relationships that you don't even know you are doing. For instance, in the morning I always ask my H how he slept that night (remember we sleep apart) - the reason I ask him that question is because I am fearful he didn't sleep well, because he is considering leaving again, and so on and so on. I don't really ask him that question because I care about him (although I do really care), but because I'm trying to mine for info. I do this a lot, and the book really focuses on that, that's why my expectations crash and burn so often, because H knows I'm asking those questions for insincere reasons too.
Anyway, I enjoy reading your threads - they give me much insight into my own sitch. May I ask you how long you have been married?
