With Feb 14 th fast approaching would you get your ex something to show her you still love her
Don't buy gifts and flowers to give her. That is pursuit. Why would a man want to give his ex something to prove he still loves her? This is not the time to do those kind of things, and especially when she has removed herself from the MR with you.
You are experiencing strong feelings for her b/c she dumped you. It is especially true for a co-dependent H. It is YOU that has an intense need to show her how much you love. But, she doesn't have that need, doesn't want you, and doesn't want you pursuing her with flowers, cards, candy, gifts, etc. When she left the M, she left behind what came along with the MR.
This is the time to pull back and allow her space, and allow her to see her life without you in it. She has rejected you, the MR, and your love. Giving her things to show you still love her keeps you attached, and pushes her further away.
Here's the thing with a WW, she will not truly appreciate your love as long as nothing changes for her. She has to experience the loss of you before there's a chance of her wanting back in the MR. Instead of "showing" her you still love her, I suggest you keep those feelings to yourself. You don't have to stop loving her.......but now is not the time to demonstrate it.
You can do other things, such as becoming stronger, more confident as an individual standing on your morals and values. Using resources to create a new & improved man.......IMHO, is a man who is genuinely proving his love. You would be getting yourself ready to deal with whatever she threw at you......should she want return(and I think she will if you will play your cards right).
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
