In the UK Need advice Wife asked to separate

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So how can you become more happy in your own skin? What positive steps can you take towards that?

You have a few good male friends - that's great. Are you reaching out to them and seeing them regularly? If they have kids, might the kids join you too?

I think it's okay to spend some time with your W - but also do your own thing sometimes okay? She's not going to get chance to meet you if you're right there the whole time.

So, you feel getting to the gym would be a good idea. What positive steps are you going to take there?

If you cling to her, that may push her away. You can be pleasant to her, but get out to the gym and do things with friends when you can too..

As for Feb 14th - you could get a card and small present to have in reserve just in case, but I wouldn't initiate with a gift. She's telling you she wants you guys to separate just now...

Keep posting and start taking some definite steps towards where you want to be....:-)