I'm sorry you find yourself here. I suggest finding posters and/or threads that help you find insight into your own particular situation.
I'd also search the boards here for any testimony from MLC survivors. It's been 1 year for me and I still get incredibly angry about what my W is doing to our family. I struggle with forgiveness and empathy. Reading from the MLCers themselves helps me to understand what a mess their mind is. Some posters to search for include AmyC / Amy40, Wonka, M Go Blue, mirage (I think Cadet is a survivor too). Listen to job as well.
My only 2 cents is watch out for further rewriting of history. My W will rewrite things that happened earlier in that same day. Also, the more horrible behavior your H seeks to get into, the more gaslighting he will engage in. Watch out for that.
From your introductory post, you are definitely one smart, tough woman. You have got a grip on things pretty clearly.
M: 49, W: 45 T: 22 M: 15 S14, S11, S9 BD: Jan '16 W files: Oct '16 D final: June '18
