I agree with Summer too. I had been thinking along these lines, but just hadn't gotten around to posting.

The other thing I would point out is the 'stinkin' thinkin'' - ie: my friend became single and now he has a GF in just two years and here I am 10 years later still trying...

It's not helpful to compare in that way. Who knows how any of us will fare in future R's - when we may meet someone - how successful that might be and so on?

I think allowing time for friendships to form etc. Is a really good way to go. For me, going out with a guy I don't know really doesn't appeal at all and I'm sure many women would feel the same. Plus, give yourself time to get to know them a little before going in with the flirtation and asking for a date..it's a more respectful way I think.

JMHO of course - and hope this is helpful :-)

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