The anger/rage control is critical. We are not that person when we first date someone yet somehow tend to gravitate to poor habits. You are doing well and have made significant progress in controlling the rage.
Whether a person is piecing or D'd...the feeling of sadness is another stage for the LBS. I no longer feel anger or rage towards my XW for what she did, I feel sad that she and I contributed to breaking up a family. I feel sad that she had to look elsewhere for her needs and that we had difficulty communicating.
D'd or reconciling, the A will be a blip in time and the expectation of the LBS wanting the WW/WH to feel remorse will not matter.
Keep fighting! I am on your side!
(((Sara)))
H-46 XW-38 T-7 M-6 S-9,8,8,6,4 S 11/30/15, I filed 12/8/15 EA 2/1/16 D dismissed 3/24/16 PA 3/18/16 confirmed 4/22/16 XW files for D 4/1/16 - D final 11/17/16 Finally moving forward...
