I agree with everything DonH said. She threw a whopper tantrum and got rewarded. Did you think that letting her spew all over you would cause her to respect you as a man? And why would you be touching her the next day and serving her coffee? Did she show any signs of sorrow for how she behaved, or did she apologize? You rewarded her for treating you like $hit. Why?

Look, she is not going through withdrawals if she has some type of connection to OM. She has to be totally cut off from his picture, recorded voice, old messages, etc. The absence of those connections is what causes the withdrawal. Also, if she was in withdrawal and then connected to OM in some fashion......she would have to start all over in the withdrawal process.

It concerns me that the tone of your recent post sounds as if you are joining the ranks of men who won't be the kind of H to enforce firm boundaries, and they decide to change their WW to a MLC, b/c somehow, that makes more sense to them. MLC is not easier, but I do get the impression that some H's choose to say his W is MLC, rather than accepting the tough challenges of the WW. I hope you won't give up, b/c I think you've got what it takes to get back the respect of your WW and have a happy MR.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!