Hey Don, my only thought is that it isn't always possible to get exactly what you want when you want it. Just because everything isn't going the way you want doesn't mean you are doing something horribly wrong. Sometimes it's just the way it is. I understand you feel it is a pattern and you're the common thread, but it might be that's it's just darn difficult to get something going these days. Yeah, you notice those that form a new relationship quickly, but that's maybe because you're looking for it, and you don't see all those in the same spot you are.
Bottom line, you seem like a cool guy so keep enjoying yourself and take er easy.
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15