So Confused and Conflicted

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I want to also point out that during the summer, we planned to start trying to have kids in October. When October rolled around, she brought up kids at some point, and I kind of gave my usual, "yeah, I'm still scared of such and such", but I didn't say "no". In late November, she was going cold. She has not given kids as the reason why. But many, including myself, have wondered.

It's so strange that she so recently was ready to have kids with me, yet she was so unhappy that she needed to leave a few months later? I had probably gotten a little slacker in being a good husband during this time, but hadn't done anything major, like cheating. She's the one that has made a sudden transformation -- a sudden decision.

She gave no warnings that she was thinking about leaving me or nearing the end of her rope -- no ultimatums. She would complain about things from time to time, in a very reasonable and loving manner, but I just had trouble "getting it" -- understanding how unhappy she was and how much she needed me to change.