My W's mindset is that we will still have lots of family time together post-D...family dinners, birthdays together, holidays together, vacations, etc. She says D doesn't mean the end of our family (silly Gordie)...and she says it with all sincerity like she really means it...what is going on?
Is this fantasy? cake eating? How should I be thinking about this/responding? As of now, I told my W I need more time to think about it...and suspect she'll ask me about it again this weekend...
My opinion is that you should have a list of holidays and who gets what. Then if the "controlling" parent wants to offer the other parent the time, then so be it.
In my case, we have New Years Eve/Day, Easter, Memorial Day, 4th July, Labor Day, Thanksgiving, Christmas, and Halloween as 'holidays'. We switch off year to year. Birthdays and other events are just 'luck of the calendar'.
