Gordie: Pulling it all together 2

[Gordie]

KarenHC...yes, how to turn holidays from wonder...to dread, so sad. And yes, my W and I still take the kids to church together most Sundays...I've resisted asking if she's expecting that to continue to...I guess I'm playing it by ear. My W hasn't used the my truth language...she prefers following her heart...absurd? yes, his is absurd...

SBJ...restructured? no, I haven't heard that one...but an ongoing, happy family? yes, W says we don't have to be like other unhappy, D families, that we can do this differently...and that we will all be happier...yippee...MLCBS...we have to add that to the abbreviations!

ForGump...yes, I think our Ws caught the same fantasy/infection...wish I knew the cure...I like your approach:

"...we will try to do the holidays together as long as we can agree, but to lay out a plan to alternate parenting 50-50 for all the holidays as something we fall back onto, in case we can no longer agree. That way, we can hope for the best, but each of us can be assured that in the worst case the holidays are split equitably."

My boundary? The one thing I have said is I'm not doing family celebrations, holidays and vacations with W and POM...that if POM is there, then I won't want to be there...and you know what my W said? I'll really like him once I get to know him...barf!