G-- mine is the same way. Never managed her own life independently. I think it is to her credit to crave and want that kind of empowerment. I just wish she could find a way to do it w/o blowing up our marriage and family.
I think in many ways ... if I subtract about 10-15-20 years from her age, then everything makes sense for what she's feeling, what she wants for herself. I am not certain she will progress through this stage and emerge at the other end.
Agree. I wish she could get what she wants and stay M...but alas, she can't or doesn't think she can. We actually talked about all the iterations...stay married but live separately (we actually know some couples who have done this)...get divorced but stay living together...stay married but have an open relationship (...and some who have done this too)...and where are we now? She wants to get divorced but still be friends with benefits, have family time, etc.
Gordie 40s W 40s M20+ kids 2016 BD W fantasy affair w OM1 I do everything wrong 2017 I start to DB W says TLTL files for D PA w OM2 2018 I do LRT W drops filing and OM2 situation slowly improving
