G-- mine is the same way. Never managed her own life independently. I think it is to her credit to crave and want that kind of empowerment. I just wish she could find a way to do it w/o blowing up our marriage and family.
I think in many ways ... if I subtract about 10-15-20 years from her age, then everything makes sense for what she's feeling, what she wants for herself. I am not certain she will progress through this stage and emerge at the other end.
Me: 50, MLC/WW 45 Young kids Nov 2015: BD1 Apr 2016: BD2 Jan 2017: W filed Feb 2017: D final