Quote: Sticking point for me right now is having something else be more important than sex. If the M is important, but there is no sex, what does that leave? How many ppl would stay with their spouses if they NEVER had sex and be happy? I'm not saying that it will happen. I'm sure, if I do give up bonking my head over and over in this cheeseless tunnel, that things would be better.
I think you made the leap here that's getting you stuck...that easy back on initiating and respecting his desires = no sex ever.
I don't think that's what's going on, is it? (I certainly don't think you have the data right now). Maybe easing off and really doing what he's asking = him initiating more?
IOW -- I think you're dooming yourself to no sex when I don't think that's what's being "promised".
Why not honestly and truly try to do what he's asking for?
Sage
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