Originally Posted By: CJLS
PS this may well be a pointless question but are there certain ways I should be "nice" (rather than "nasty") to my wife so as not to push her to consummate the relationship more quickly as that would really devastate me.


You make it sound like you think you have some control over this. Trust me when I say that your actions really arent relevant to whether or not they have a PA. You are just as likely to come back here in a few months and say that she said "You didnt fight for me, so I felt you didnt want me" as you are to hear "You were smothering me and I had to get away."

Thats why it's so important to focus on you, because thats all you have control over.