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Originally Posted By: ForGump
maly,
You sound quite frustrated with your wife.
What is your plan?


Frustrated is not the word,my plan don't have one,I'm just hoping karma comes in and
My w hits rock bottom,it really needs some thing like that to shake her up,nothing els has worked you name it I tryed it,there on a mission,just have to let em run wild,and see what happens,and hope they don't do to much damage on the way,if my w is ever going to come out of it I don't know its been a long time running now,I do know she still loves me,but this mlc is a living nightmare ,all we can do it watch them on their rampage,I don't even know if I could live with her again after all the bad things she done,its true that all they care about is there self's when in this mlc,and all you can do is try and protect your self and your children,time is the key ,


Me 56 w52
M30 years
4x adult kids
W dad died/11
W wanted d 03/12
In-house sep 03/12
D 2014 I pushed
W Left on 02/16 I pushed
Pa on 07/16
Nc after 07/16
W Cakeating 15to16
Me doormat 12to16
Limbo 12to16
maly #2729445 02/10/17 06:15 AM
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Dam this mlc some thing needs to be done about it,,all the lives and family's it is damaging and breaking its an epidemic,now I know more about it,I can see in my past lots of friends and relatives have sufford this and ended with broken marriages, I'm starting to think its not their fault its an illness,its inherited and in the DNA,it damages them us and children,why why


Me 56 w52
M30 years
4x adult kids
W dad died/11
W wanted d 03/12
In-house sep 03/12
D 2014 I pushed
W Left on 02/16 I pushed
Pa on 07/16
Nc after 07/16
W Cakeating 15to16
Me doormat 12to16
Limbo 12to16
maly #2729448 02/10/17 06:32 AM
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I'm starting to think its not their fault its an illness,its inherited and in the DNA,it damages them us and children,why why


I wouldn't go as far as to say its in the DNA. A product of the environment is much more like it. Some just want out of the marriage and any behavior from them that seems irrational probably is more likely them now knowing how to leave or some part of them doesn't want to hurt us, or whatever.


There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
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Originally Posted By: Jeep74
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I'm starting to think its not their fault its an illness,its inherited and in the DNA,it damages them us and children,why why


I wouldn't go as far as to say its in the DNA. A product of the environment is much more like it. Some just want out of the marriage and any behavior from them that seems irrational probably is more likely them now knowing how to leave or some part of them doesn't want to hurt us, or whatever.


I see what your saying,but remember their hormones are all over the place and chemicals are flowing around their brains,their brains are not functioning as they should,


Me 56 w52
M30 years
4x adult kids
W dad died/11
W wanted d 03/12
In-house sep 03/12
D 2014 I pushed
W Left on 02/16 I pushed
Pa on 07/16
Nc after 07/16
W Cakeating 15to16
Me doormat 12to16
Limbo 12to16
maly #2729458 02/10/17 07:23 AM
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see what your saying,but remember their hormones are all over the place and chemicals are flowing around their brains,their brains are not functioning as they should,


True. In some cases, yes. But we must not forget that names are placed on things for reasons we don't know.


There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
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Originally Posted By: Jeep74
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see what your saying,but remember their hormones are all over the place and chemicals are flowing around their brains,their brains are not functioning as they should,


True. In some cases, yes. But we must not forget that names are placed on things for reasons we don't know.


Jeep,I'm not making excuses for them its wrong what they do,but my wifes brain
Is deffo not functioning has it should,I also no she is in menopause,


Me 56 w52
M30 years
4x adult kids
W dad died/11
W wanted d 03/12
In-house sep 03/12
D 2014 I pushed
W Left on 02/16 I pushed
Pa on 07/16
Nc after 07/16
W Cakeating 15to16
Me doormat 12to16
Limbo 12to16
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maly-- have you, or ARE YOU, moving on?

You seem still quite angry and attached to your wife.

Are you still hoping for your wife to return?


Me: 50, MLC/WW 45
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Originally Posted By: ForGump
maly-- have you, or ARE YOU, moving on?

You seem still quite angry and attached to your wife.

Are you still hoping for your wife to return?


Yep I'm angry cos of the stuff she did,yep I still love her probly cos she is the mother of my kids,but at the end of the day she betrayed me stabbed me in the back,
Yep I would like her to want to come back,I might let her or I might tell her to get lost,
But I would like her to see she has done wrong and repent,I do miss her but the damage she has done along the way is hard to bear,


Me 56 w52
M30 years
4x adult kids
W dad died/11
W wanted d 03/12
In-house sep 03/12
D 2014 I pushed
W Left on 02/16 I pushed
Pa on 07/16
Nc after 07/16
W Cakeating 15to16
Me doormat 12to16
Limbo 12to16
maly #2729542 02/10/17 10:49 AM
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Originally Posted By: ForGump
maly-- have you, or ARE YOU, moving on?

You seem still quite angry and attached to your wife.

Are you still hoping for your wife to return?


Yep I'm angry cos of the stuff she did,yep I still love her probly cos she is the mother of my kids,but at the end of the day she betrayed me stabbed me in the back,
Yep I would like her to want to come back,I might let her or I might tell her to get lost,
But I would like her to see she has done wrong and repent,I do miss her but the damage she has done along the way is hard to bear,


And if I meet the right one some thing could start I'm not sure if I'm ready for another relationship just yet ,


Me 56 w52
M30 years
4x adult kids
W dad died/11
W wanted d 03/12
In-house sep 03/12
D 2014 I pushed
W Left on 02/16 I pushed
Pa on 07/16
Nc after 07/16
W Cakeating 15to16
Me doormat 12to16
Limbo 12to16
maly #2729547 02/10/17 10:55 AM
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Originally Posted By: ForGump
maly-- have you, or ARE YOU, moving on?

You seem still quite angry and attached to your wife.

Are you still hoping for your wife to return?


Yep I'm angry cos of the stuff she did,yep I still love her probly cos she is the mother of my kids,but at the end of the day she betrayed me stabbed me in the back,
Yep I would like her to want to come back,I might let her or I might tell her to get lost,
But I would like her to see she has done wrong and repent,I do miss her but the damage she has done along the way is hard to bear,


And if I meet the right one some thing could start I'm not sure if I'm ready for another relationship just yet ,


Its a long slow road,but each day I believe I'm getting stronger day by day,
Time time time,remember the saying time heals,its true she has hurt me I'm wounded,but each day I heal a little bit,and one day I will be well again that's a goal I want to achieve I will do it,


Me 56 w52
M30 years
4x adult kids
W dad died/11
W wanted d 03/12
In-house sep 03/12
D 2014 I pushed
W Left on 02/16 I pushed
Pa on 07/16
Nc after 07/16
W Cakeating 15to16
Me doormat 12to16
Limbo 12to16
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