done my head in

[maly]

I'm starting to think its not their fault its an illness,its inherited and in the DNA,it damages them us and children,why why

I wouldn't go as far as to say its in the DNA. A product of the environment is much more like it. Some just want out of the marriage and any behavior from them that seems irrational probably is more likely them now knowing how to leave or some part of them doesn't want to hurt us, or whatever.

I see what your saying,but remember their hormones are all over the place and chemicals are flowing around their brains,their brains are not functioning as they should,