This used to be way easier - and a lot more fun!

[Dawgs]

There is a pattern here...

The advice I often give friends is it's usually more about them and in the case of the women this past weekend I very much think that's it. I mean who drives 3 or 4 hours to an event to meet their patents who live several states away and then goes to her room at 9 and home the next morning when she planned on the weekend? I think she has issues and I saw them right away when we met over TG but I again thought... Give her a chance. As for what happened, you tell me. I was talking in a group with her and a few others. A friend of mine asked her to dance and she did but returned to talking to me. A good sign thought. She asked if I was going to dance with her just as I had to leave to perform in the next band in like minutes. I sad, absolutely, but when I'm done and that was the last I saw of her. I knew she had been sick in the last couple weeks and thought maybe she was tired. Then when I didn't see her Saturday, I texted and asked where she was hiding? "I ended up in my room by 9pm. Never left after that although my parents visited. I disappeared...I drove back to Michy yesterday.". Who does that? So honestly in this case I'm not giving it much more thought. I think she's a bit lost after her D. I don't know the details but when asked what she does, she responded, "I play a lot of tennis". Okay then

This one seems interested and based on what you said it looked like she tried to engage you multiple times. Maybe she wasn't feeling a return vibe. Maybe she just got tired of waiting or just lost interest. That tennis line is odd, but then again maybe its a brush-off statement.

1. Met at a birthday party of a mutual friend and his wife. They both know both of us very well. Me for 25 years her for at least 15. We had fun together for several hours. Female mutual friend said how she rarely is that outgoing like she was with me. Went out once, seemed to be going fine until she abruptly says, I got to go - after some texts. Later the mutual friend tells me she's interested. I was SHOCKED. We've texted since with her initiating some as well. No second date.

No phone calls? If not, then I'm not surprised there wasn't a second date.

2. Met again through different mutual friends. I asked her out at the end of the first date after the friends left us, to which she without hesitation accepted. Tried multiple times to set something up and it never happened. Gave up until wishing her happy birthday a few months later. Again a warm response so I offered to take her out for her birthday when she returned from the work trip she was on. "That would be great" was again the response. Again it never happened

You'll find that happens more often than not. Was there any more contact after "that would be great?" A lot of time between contacts isn't indicative of interest.

3. This was different... She sat in front of me in church TWO YEARS ago. I sent her a FB note that she first happened to get less than two months ago due to how FB used to handle those. She said she just got this now. We chatted a bit and SHE ASKED ME OUT! Timing around the holidays was challenging so we agreed to after the new year. I contact her and she says she "met someone" and wants to see where it goes but adds we can still meet as friends. I sense this was to take any pressure off and I tell her that's what I was pretty much thinking anyhow since we really don't know each other yet. She says great and compliments me on my attitude. Still have not met. It's been "maybe next week, I'll let you know."

How does FB handle messages? Never had that issue, even with people who aren't friended yet. Interesting. She's not interested, period.

4. Met at a very large event I helped run a few weeks ago. Didn't think I'd be seeing her again until next year so asked her to lunch or dinner. Said she is a Single gal" but has a "dear friend" (notice not a BF) and doesn't date more than one person at a time. I have very strong indications she might be gay but keeps it quiet. Although. She still wants to go to dinner and she has initiated contact all week. Who the hell knows?

There seems some interest from her. Go out - what's the issue? Could give you some much-needed practice.