The difference in paperwork, is that prosay divorce is us agreeing to everything like best friends without lawyers or a drawn out process. Right now my lawyer has already drafted up seperation papers, hes just sitting on them for now, i actually gave hime the green light to file them last week but now im hesitant. My mom says to file now before she can save up or do more damage to me. Idk. Im not sure if me filing would even phase her, or is it me taking the burden off her...? Its been 6mths since BD and she seems hellbent on avoiding me and speeding off with OM... What are ur guys thoughts, i kinda hope her speeding away means a more speedy crash of her fantasy.
In a sense, your Mom is correct. Filing first is advantageous. Mine had her lawyer draw up papers but wouldn't file. Due to where she was stationed, I waited until the last week before the jurisdiction period was up and filed. That way, it forced things to stay in this home county where the kids are, which helped immensely.
Speeding off...well, at six months after BD in my case my ex was telling the OM that he was her future husband. Her fantasy with him will live until its blown up...either by you or someone else.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
