Well, in MLC their "empathy chips" are busted. And sure, some of them will talk your ear off having no self awareness nor situational awareness. Their wiring is all jumbled. Painful as it, if you can try to listen, you will learn more of where his head is.
They have massive confusion and it's genuine. My h would say the most outlandish things and the next day not remember any of it. He doesn't want to work at the r because he is regressing emotionally and he's going to seek out "fixes." No one knows what forms these will take: spending, partying, OW, drugs, tattoos, vitamins or all these and then some more.
Anyway, welcome and continue to take care of you.
Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13 BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room" 8/15: H back to MBR 10/15: H back in dorm room 1/18: H files, now divorced
