Hey Karen - WOW - I got emotionally exhausted just reading your complete thread - you must burn up a lot of calories You sound like a lovely lady with very high standards - and that you are always trying your best to meet these high standards, and expect those around you to do the same. Can be very tiring for you and everyone else As a recent convert from control-freak-land, I can testify that the path of lesser mortals is far more enjoyable, and more appealing
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I think this ties into crazy making in that I ALWAYS find soemthing "wrong" with him or our r to bi. about. As he once put it, "it's always something. " And he's right. I just move from one topic to another, be it sex, money, lack of comm'n, lack of WOA, him spending more time w/his friends, etc. The list goes on and on and on and on and on...

Yup, the lament of a perfectionist. How about some goals, Karen? Something along the lines of - I will find 3 good things about H everyday, and compliment him sincerely. Or I will give thanks for 2 good things in my R. Kinda reduces the time (and energy) you may have for finding things that are wrong maybe? Not sure if you have tried the path of goals in a previous thread, just thought it worth a shot You are a wonderful human being, love yourself, my friend. Hugs, Slowly

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