I am now recovering from porn addiction. 27 days clean. There's a lot of information about it out there if this connects with anyone. Porn has disconnected me from the people I love, including my wife and kids. I don't want to see people as objects to use to fix me anymore, but see people as they are - just like me.
I want to do 2 things - not bug my wife for sex and not accuse her of continuing an affair. She doesn't know if she ever wants to have sex with me again but that is her right. I change my mind all the time - I start to get angry but I believe this is because I'm miserable and want her to fix me. I want to leave so I can have sex again or I want her to have sex with me. Neither of those things can fix me. Thank you to whoever it was on this forum that suggested we read "Secrets of a Passionate Marriage" - that and "Divorce Rememdy" has helped me decide on who I want to be. I want to stay this person. My mantra is "I am the selfless space".
