Kaizen...the point of the conversation was to let him know that I love his mother no matter what happens. He said that he doesn't understand what was happening and I told him that I did not either. I will not drag her thru the mud, but I will answer if my children ask me something. I have not and will not ever talk bad about her to them.
Thats fine. But if I am a 19 year old, and my dad says that he loves my mom so much, but they are getting a divorce anyway....then all I can do is assume that its my mom's fault. To me, its not really that different to say "I will always love your mother" than to say "your mother isnt in love with me." It is kinda of dragging her through the mud by pointing out that you are the "clean" one.
I think its much better if you talk about your relationship with your son and other children instead of with their mother.
But again, Im not an expert and these are just my opinions.
