Hey Karen, I've seen you post on other threads and I may have posted to you well in the beginning, nonetheless, I'm here now. I would have thought after reading about the crazymaking on the Friends thread that you would have slowed down a bit but it doesn't appear that way (unless I don't know enough about you).
You've been in C and you've been reading, have you gotten any solid advice from any of that that you should be focusing on? I mean if your H is ok w/M, why the insecurity? Just coz he doesn't talk a lot doesn't mean he's not interested. You've read the books, it's part of their personality. Have you ever tried to set up a specific time to sit and talk w/him regularly? That could break the ice a little and possibly get him to interact in the future on a regular basis.
I read somewhere that some folks try and schedule time for just them to talk, say 15 minutes after dinner, before bed, in the morning, etc...whichever is better for you two. Actually, whichever is more doable for your H would be best. Have you asked him to do this? WHy not try something like that. Let him know that you would like input from him other than one or two words coz it helps keep your feelings in control? just an idea....
Seems to me that you are pushing to "start" something that is not really there (i.e. WAS). Another option might be to write down your questions, thoughts and then you'll see how they may seem silly or dwindle after a day or two. I did this a lot in the beginning and it helped me to really get to what I really wanted to discuss instead of minor chitchat and H was more apt to respond.
Hope I could shed some insight for you. Tootles......
