Gordie: Pulling it all together 2

[ForGump]

That's part of the reason why I won't blow up the POM at this stage. My W has actully hinted that if I do that it is yet another example of me controlling her...and isn't she right?

I think she would be right ... if it was real. If it was real, then it would be you trying to control her right to choose. But if a person is having a delusional episode -- what psychologists call "dissociation" -- then it's about mental health. You wouldn't be saying, "you must choose X over Y." You're saying, "you believe X, but it's actually Y."

That's the way I saw it with my wife. I wasn't trying to tell her, You have no right to choose. I told her, What you think is a relationship is actually a delusion.

Anyway, Gordie, I think just by explaining my logic here, I might be over-emphasizing the importance of this issue. In my personal situation, it was a catalyst, a match that lit the fire. But the fuel was already there, and if it wasn't for that match, something else was likely to have lit the fire. So the delusion is a part of the picture, an important one, but not everything either.