Kaizen, so you are suggesting along the lines of:

D: Did you cheat on mom?

Gordie: No

D: Did mom cheat on you?

Gordie: I'll answer questions about me, but think you should talk to your mom regarding questions about her.

Gordie 40s W 40s M20+ kids
2016 BD W fantasy affair w OM1 I do everything wrong
2017 I start to DB W says TLTL files for D PA w OM2
2018 I do LRT W drops filing and OM2 situation slowly improving