Re your W, I think this is why they say keep your expectations at ZERO. You obviously still have expectations for how she should interact with you and those expectations are hurting YOU. You need to take them down to zero so when she doesn't give you sympathy, ask how you are doing, or give you a hug, it doesn't affect you. Treat her like a female neighbor or a female store clerk. Would you be disappointed if they didn't give you a hug?
Thank you Gordie for the kick.. I'm trying, I guess the feeling of not having closure on the why is my problem, that and the emotional kick of loss again.. I go through the ZERO expectation, but something causes me to want again.. Should I just be completely numb with things about her while 180ing? As so far doing the NC except for kids, W seems unfazed or worse.. and I know its still very early in the process but I guess I'm still stuck on feelings and wants..
