Great update. This will be hard on all of the kids. I am expecting for my elementary school kids, this will be primarily emotional and don't expect them to ask the adult questions. For my teenagers, I expect them to ask all of the adult questions. Is that correct? And how much are you supposed to share with them? I don't want to bad mouth their mother at all, but I also don't want to lie about things. What amount of covering up or beating around the bush is appropriate when asked direct questions?
I don't have any answers on those questions either. I have been waiting on them to ask before I say anything. I am trying to keep my head up and stay in an upbeat attitude when I am with them all. My oldest and I were alone so we were able to talk like adults...it was nice, but I did not say anything regarding her EA or that the only reason she can come up with for leaving is that she needs more passion in her life...I don't know where it says that that is ok in the Bible. Haha. My son and I had a good discussion about what God says about divorce...it was eye opening.
My D14 and my S10 have not asked me about any of what is going on. The only thing that I have said to my D14 is that I love her mother, I love all of our kids, and that we will get thru this with the help of God. My S10 is too young to really understand what is going on, but I feel that he gets exasperated sometimes when we have to load up and take him to the other house.
In the book of Matthew (Matthew 10:26b it says...Nothing is concealed that will not be revealed, nor secret that will not be known). I feel that at some point the secrets will all be out in the open.
Me 49 W46 T25 M22 S22 D18 S13 W had EA Apr-Jul 2016 Dropped Bomb 7/9/16 ILYBINILWYA HER DIVORCE IS FINAL...8/18/17 Dropping the rope to SURVIVE & THRIVE!!!
