Update... The hits just keep on coming.. They say things come in 3s.. so I'm not sure what else there is to hit me to make the third.. but I just lost my Grandfather who I was pretty close to and meant a lot to me. He was one I had looked up to and followed in a way into the military as well.
When I let her know he passed in person all I received back was an "Oh"...Nothing much else.. she asked if there was anything she could do, but moreso was there anything she could do as far as the kids, if they needed to be with me some or needed help picking them up from school.. nothing more. I don't know why I was expecting a different response.. but a part of me was hoping for more.. A part of me was hoping for at least a friendly hug, or more concern. I guess this is where I'm stuck on the, "I just need space so that I can find myself." Which has not been what I have been seeing since she got her space.
I would think that 14 years together that there would still be some type of feelings there or general niceness, even if just for my family.. but I guess not. Just an "Oh," and then diverting to the children.. I mean before, she said she wanted to still be friends and have a good relationship through this.. Now I don't believe it... Her family at least was the first to reach out with condolences..
Am I wrong in my thinking?? What can cause such disconnect when everything seemed fine not even that long ago!?
