The real question that no one seems to be willing to ask is this: If you and EX-NG get back together, does that make him the new new guy (NNG) or the new old guy (NOG)? NNG could imply that he's the guy after the old NG, but NOG could imply that it's the EX-H, and that wouldn't be good. And, new EX-NG (NEXNG) doesn't work at all. Maybe old new guy now new new guy (ONGNNNG)?
This is all so confusing that I have to wonder why you'd want him back.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
Ya know, I have to say this. There is a time and place for everything. I enjoy a joke as much as the next guy, but honestly, not everything is a joke. G is being vulnerable enough to put it out there that she feels "pathetic" about what she is feeling. I'm not sure the appropriate response is to joke about it. I got the same thing on my thread to something really bothering me - only it was, yet again, wait for it... skinny dipping for the oh I don't know 300th time. Doodler your joke to serious post ratio is like 50:1. Just might want to think a bit more carefully. Ginger seems to really feel bad about this and is likely far too nice to say anything. I also do not want to speak for her or put words in her mouth. This just struck me as bad timing and I thought I'd say something. Again, we all need humor and need to laugh - even at ourselves sometimes. They say timing is everything. Take it for what it's worth.
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I was trying to read and respond yesterday, but I kept tearing up and since I was home with D9, she kept asking me why I was crying.
As you all know, I can be extremely hard on myself. And I have been so hard on myself for still missing him this much. I am embarrassed about it. with my ex, I was so friggin angry at him. Just mad. I was the worst DB'er and I hated him for being the one to cheat and leave. I wanted him to suffer. I didn't even really want to be with him after that. So for the first time I am actually loving someone while letting go. I'll tell you, it is no easy feat. It's one of the hardest things I have ever done.
How do I know he feels the same way? Some is an assumption and gut feeling. Based off of information I do have. Whether or not he does or doesn't feel the same way makes no difference.
I think because I haven't found anyone who has qualities close to the ones that have us connect so well, I would rather be alone. I'm going to keep hoping someone will come into my life that makes these feelings go away.
Anyways,
I cooked a lot yesterday when I was home and make my special "compliant" chicken tenders for my peeps at work, including the younger guy I have a crush on. And the other one. He was like the happiest guy in the world. He messaged me after and thanked me up and down and thought it was so very nice of me and he said 'I think you might be my favorite person." He also said if I never needed any help with anything, he would be more than happy too. I guess the way to a man's heart really is through his stomach? He really is a nice guy and if I just made a nice friend I get to cook for, I am just happy with that.
You know. I miss being a wife and a girlfriend. I enjoy (maybe selfish) just making a significant other feel good and loved. I miss that too.
But single people get free wings at hooters on Valentines Day. There is that.
As you all know, I can be extremely hard on myself. And I have been so hard on myself for still missing him this much. I am embarrassed about it. with my ex, I was so friggin angry at him. Just mad. I was the worst DB'er and I hated him for being the one to cheat and leave. I wanted him to suffer. I didn't even really want to be with him after that. So for the first time I am actually loving someone while letting go. I'll tell you, it is no easy feat. It's one of the hardest things I have ever done.
I'm just as hard on myself as you are. I've let go as much as I can. I also wanted her to suffer, and then felt bad when she did. I carried a lot of unnecessary guilt over the death of our marriage...and to some extent, even though I know better, I still do. I can't fix her. I'm not quite sure what led to me contacting her yesterday, but I did. And I beat myself up for it, too. Ugh.
Keep your chin up! Your road is paved with gold. Own it.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
I am in a group text with my friends from the gym. one friend is my instructor, who is the sister of the firefighter. we are talking about our jobs and how mine is boring, she says " now that you and my bro are getting married, he can take you out on some call in P-town (our local ghetto where he is a fire-fighter).
I almost died! So they all began to joke about our wedding and I did say "J, your bro is absolutely adorable" she ten says "OMG OMG,it really is happening!"
So, did she get the feeling from my feeding him and our facebook exchanges, or did he say something? What do I say? What do I do? She seems to be approving of it, if we actually ever did date.
Run. Run like hell. You haven't even been out on a date and this is being said? Did you shut that sh*t down quicklike?
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
